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Perhaps the most important thing to consider when looking at the idea of play is your own personal safety and that of the person/people you're playing with. While the articles section (link below) will cover some more specific issues in this area, the basics can never be repeated enough. So, this page will look at some very basic guidelines to follow when planning real life play. These apply to men as well as women since predators know no gender boundaries. Please don't be scared off by talk of safeguards. Rather, follow them and feel more secure when you do meet with a new person or group. These are good for anyone meeting someone for the first time...tickle-related or not.

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1. Don't be so rushed for real time play that you meet someone you've only spoken with once or twice. Take time to get to know them a bit online and on the phone before you consider meeting in person. Some things to consider discussing are..

. - Whether this is sexual or simply fun play.

. - What kinds of touch, tools, etc. have been used in previous play with others.

. - What actual and/or desired responses are expected.

2. Ask others about the person/people wherever possible. Be sure that, if there's something negative that would keep you from meeting this person, you do what you can to find out about it.

3. Once you agree to meet with someone for the first time, consider doing so in a public place (a restaurant is generally a good option) for conversation only. You can always move on from there.

4. Let someone know of your meeting details and arrange a time at which you'll be checking in with them, along with a code word to throw into the conversation if there's a problem.

5. Be sure to not mix alcohol and/or drugs with a first encounter, since this can cloud discernment and cause you to open yourself to something you may not really want. Limiting your consumption is advisable for the same reasons even once you know them a bit.

6. Be sure to discuss expectations, boundaries and make clear what you are and are not willing to do before you meet. This takes the pressure off when you do see one another. If there's any hesitation on the part of the other person/people to honor that in conversation, they aren't likely to do so once you're together. So, you may want to reconsider connecting.

7. If play is to be involved and #6 has been taken care of, consider doing this in a hotel or similar setting. This is for two reasons...

. - If there's a problem, you may not want the person to know where you live.

. - If you need to yell for help, others are more likely to be around to hear you. (This isn't normally likely to happen. But, safety IS the title of this page.)

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Remember, these are the very basics. We encourage you to take time to read through the articles in this site in order to better understand some of the ins and outs of play within the natural tickling scene. They will help you to better understand and be comfortable with some of the aspects of play that you may encounter now or down the road. They may also help you to make more informed decisions on what you do or don't want to incorporate into your own personal play.

Articles About Scene Play & Safety

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This section contains a variety of articles from a variety of sources. All are geared towards a greater understanding of what it really means to take part in play with another person. Whether that play is one-on-one or within a group setting, there are a number of safety factors to keep in mind. You will find articles addressing many of these factors here. If you have additional articles you think may be a good addition to this section, please feel free to pass them along.

While everyone has their own style of play and preferences for how things take place, these are some simple guides to aid those who have had little or no experience. Developing your own style is to be expected. This section will just give you some helpful information as you travel along this, our own little road less travelled.

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 Breath Control: Is Epinephrine the "Smoking Gun"?

 Eight Techniques for Maintaining Communication and Trust During a Scene

 General "Scene" Etiquette

 Negotiation & Safewords

 Parties, Play & Negotiation, some terms

 Party Social Etiquette

 Personal Privacy, Anonymity & Discretion

 Safety & Breathplay

 "Scene" Aftercare, Part 1

 "Scene" Aftercare, Part 2

 Socials & Civil Behavior

 Some Play Basics

 "Sub-Space"

 Survivors, PTSD and Play

 Tickling Party House Rules

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(NOTE: Much thanks to Spenser, Jay Weisman and Chris M. for providing the bulk of this information back when we had the Tickle Scene site up and running. Other articles may be added as time permits. Please feel free to send along anything you may have to share for review and possible posting.)

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